Let’s be honest.
Men are terrible at sexting.
I mean really terrible.
Most guys text like they’re ordering fast food at 2 AM.
“U up?”
“Send nudes.”
“Wanna f***?”
God help us all.
Look — women don’t want these texts. They never did. They only tolerate them because they’ve been conditioned to expect men to suck at this game.
But you’re better than that. Or you can be.
I’m going to burn your boring, creepy, or awkward sexting habits to the ground — and build something new. Something so rare that when she reads your message, her lips curl, her imagination runs wild, and her body tingles with curiosity.
Let’s fix this mess.
1. The “U Up?” Disaster — Lazy Guy Syndrome
Why She Hates It:
Because it feels like you sent it to five other women tonight.
It’s sloppy. Thoughtless. Boring.
A girl would rather sleep than reply to that.
What To Text Instead:
“Couldn’t sleep… kept picturing you in that black dress from the other night. Is that unfair?”
See the difference?
It’s personal. It teases. She remembers that dress — and now she’s wondering what you’d do about it.
2. “Send Nudes” — The Digital Caveman Move
Why She Hates It:
Because no woman wants to feel like a free porn site.
It’s demanding. Cold. Lazy.
It kills the mood faster than your phone battery at 2%.
What To Text Instead:
“If I could undress you right now, I’d start slow… torturously slow. Want to know where my hands would go first?”
Now she’s hooked.
Mental movies are hotter than cheap photo requests.
Also read: 12 Seductive Texting Games That Will Make Them Crave You More
3. “Hey Sexy” — The Desperate Icebreaker
Why She Hates It:
It feels like your opener for every girl ever.
“Hey sexy” is what creepy guys send from fake Tinder profiles.
What To Text Instead:
“You have no idea what you did to me in that voice note you sent today… dangerous stuff.”
Specific. Real. Intriguing.
She’ll immediately think: “What part? My laugh? My breath? My sigh?”
4. The Vulgar Invitation — AKA “Wanna F***?”
Why She Hates It:
Because it’s like yelling “SEX NOW?” into her ear at a family barbecue.
Zero buildup. Zero charm. Zero chance.
What To Text Instead:
“I can’t decide if I want to ruin your lipstick first… or your sheets.”
Now she imagines kissing you. Biting. Smudging. And what happens next.
You’ve built tension, mystery, choice.
That’s the game changer.
5. The Selfish Hard-On Update — “I’m So Hard Right Now…”
Why She Hates It:
Because she doesn’t care how you feel — unless it’s because of her.
Otherwise it’s like texting: “I ate pizza. So?”
What To Text Instead:
“You make it impossible to concentrate when I picture you biting your lip like that…”
Now she’s the star.
Her body. Her tease. Her power.
Discover: 11 Brutal Truths About Why You Keep Getting Friendzoned After ‘Perfect’ Dates
6. The Porn Hub Fantasy — “I’d Wreck You So Bad”
Why She Hates It:
Because it’s violent. Gross. Forced.
Unless she specifically asked for rough-talk — this line is ewwwww.
What To Text Instead:
“I’d take my time with you. Slow enough to make you beg me to go faster.”
Control. Seduction. Power play.
Way hotter than fake bravado.
7. The ‘Horny Alert’ Text — “I’m So Horny Right Now”
Why She Hates It:
Because she can’t do anything about it — and it sounds like you’re announcing the weather.
“I’m horny.” Cool. So’s half the planet.
What To Text Instead:
“If you were here, I’d pin your hands above your head and whisper every bad thought I’ve had all day into your ear.”
Now she’s in the scene with you.
8. The “I’ll Make You Scream” Cringe Line
Why She Hates It:
Because it’s old. Lame. Every dude thinks this sounds hot.
It doesn’t.
What To Text Instead:
“I’d rather make you bite your lip so hard trying not to make a sound.”
Power. Silence. Control.
Way more erotic than loud fake moaning.
9. The AOL Chatroom Classic — “What Are You Wearing?”
Why She Hates It:
Because it’s 2005 forever when you text this.
Lazy. Predictable. Forgettable.
What To Text Instead:
“I bet you’re wearing something right now that would drive me crazy if I saw it. Wanna prove me right?”
Curiosity. Flirt. Invitation.
10. The Serial Killer Text — “I’m Gonna Destroy That Little Body of Yours”
Why She Hates It:
Because it feels dangerous — and not the good kind.
Women want excitement, not fear. This reads like a crime documentary headline.
What To Text Instead:
“You’re dangerously distracting… you make it really hard to be a gentleman.”
Now you’re the one holding back.
She wonders: “What happens if he stops holding back?”
Suggested reading: 7 Brutal Truths About Why She’s Not Choosing You (And How to Flip the Script)
The Brutal Truth About Sexting Most Men Never Learn
You don’t seduce a woman with vulgarity.
You seduce her mind.
You build curiosity. Tension. Wonder.
Make her think about you when you’re not there.
That’s the secret no guy at the gym, on Twitter, or on YouTube teaches you.
If you want to stand out — stop texting like a desperate dude who thinks every woman is the same.
Be the rare guy who gets this game.
FAQs About Sexting (The Ones You’re Too Embarrassed To Ask)
1. Should I always be flirty when texting?
No. Be you. Sometimes warm. Sometimes teasing. Balance is key.
2. How do I know if she wants sexting at all?
Watch her vibe. If she flirts first or responds playfully — you’re in. If she’s dry, change course.
3. Can I send a pic first?
Never. Unless she asks — or you really know she wants it.
4. What if she ignores my sext?
Leave it. Don’t double-text desperation. She saw it. She’ll reply if she wants to.
5. How do I get better at this?
Read. Practice. Imagine you are her. What would excite you if the roles were reversed?
Now Your Turn… (Don’t Be A Coward)
What’s the worst sext you’ve ever sent?
Be honest.
Leave a comment below. No shame here. Let’s swap horror stories — or secret wins.
Because the only way to fix your texting game… is to admit you’ve sucked at it.
Today is the day you change that forever.
Ready? Your move.
John Emmanuel is a results-obsessed relationship blogger and founder of Top Love Hacks, dedicated to helping you level up your dating and relationship game by motivating you to be in control of your love life.
