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10 Tiny Signs You’ve Already Found Your Ikigai (But Ignored It)

You keep looking for your purpose like it’s hiding behind some guru’s paywall.

But what if you’ve already found it?

What if it’s been quietly sitting in the corner of your life, watching you chase trends, fake dreams, and other people’s versions of success?

You don’t need another book.

You need to pay attention to the small signals your soul has been sending.

1. Time Disappears When You’re Doing That One Thing

Nobody talks about this enough.

If something makes time bend, twist, and vanish like a magic trick—that’s not just a hobby. That’s alignment.

You start tinkering with a design, editing a video, writing a blog post, cooking a weird recipe, and suddenly three hours vanish. Not in a bad way. In the most satisfying way.

But you dismiss it. You say, “It’s just something I do.”

Stop.

That thing you do without needing to be paid, validated, or reminded? That’s your soul’s whisper.

Ikigai isn’t always loud. It’s rarely flashy. It hides in silence, routine, and flow.


2. People Always Ask for Your Help—And You Still Don’t Get the Hint

You’re the resume fixer. The code whisperer. The last-minute trip planner. The friend who magically solves other people’s chaos.

You’ve become the person for a certain thing.

And still, you brush it off.

“Oh, it’s nothing. I just do that for fun.”

But if people keep coming to you for the same thing, that’s not a coincidence. That’s the universe nudging you with a megaphone.

Start charging. Start taking it seriously. You’re standing on gold while digging for pennies elsewhere. 

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3. It Feels Like Therapy With a Motor

There’s a sweet spot that isn’t quite meditation, but isn’t chaotic energy either.

It’s calm. Present. Focused. Peaceful, but productive.

That’s where Ikigai lives.

If something makes you feel centered and creative, curious and calm, that’s rare. That’s what most people spend decades trying to find with retreats and detoxes.

But you? You’ve already got it. You’re just too used to the chaos of modern life to see it.


4. You’d Bleed a Little to Keep Doing It

When you love something so much, you don’t just tolerate discomfort. You invite it.

You stay up editing the fourth draft. You re-record the podcast for the seventh time. You learn something new, not because it’s easy, but because it helps you improve your craft.

Ikigai is not always glamorous. It’s not always “fun.”

But if you’re choosing the grind with joy instead of bitterness, that’s sacred. Most people run from the pain. You run toward it because the meaning outweighs the struggle.


5. You’re Secretly Dying to Teach It

You don’t just want to do the thing.

You want to show someone else how to do it.

You daydream about leading a workshop. Making a course. Mentoring a younger version of you. Not because you’re trying to scale—but because the joy multiplies when you pass it on.

That’s not ego.

That’s your calling screaming through the cracks.

Ikigai doesn’t hoard. It spills over.


6. When Everything Falls Apart, You Go Back to It

Breakup? You write.

Job loss? You start painting.

Grief? You go back to organizing, building, designing.

When life shakes you like a snow globe, there’s always that one activity that calms the storm. That one thing that keeps you tethered when everything else is blowing away.

That’s not just a coping mechanism.

That’s your anchor. That’s your Ikigai.

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7. You Do It Even When It’s Not Your Job

Look back. Zoom out.

You’ve been storytelling, guiding, coding, drawing, planning, helping—no matter what your official title says.

Jobs changed. Bosses came and went. Titles got fancier.

But you always circled back to the same core action.

Patterns don’t lie. You can’t fake consistency like that.

If you keep choosing it, even when the world gives you a hundred chances to walk away—that’s the truth.


8. You Don’t Tell People Because It’s Too Precious

This one’s for the quiet dreamers.

You don’t post about it. You don’t tweet every win. You don’t need anyone else to understand it.

It’s not performance. It’s personal.

You keep it close because it’s sacred.

That’s not you being shy. That’s you protecting the fire from the wind.


9. You’d Still Do It if Nobody Ever Clapped

No likes. No comments. No awards. No emails.

And yet, you’d still show up tomorrow and do it again.

Why?

Because it lights you up. Because it adds meaning to your life, even in total silence.

That’s when you know you’re not doing it for applause. You’re doing it because it’s who you are.


10. It Makes You Feel More Alive Than Anything Else

Here’s the test:

You do it.

You’re tired. Your hands hurt. Your body is sore.

But your spirit? Lit.

You feel younger. Hopeful. Alive.

That thing that makes you feel like you again after a hard day?

Yeah. That’s it.

Don’t overthink it.

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The Hardest Part About Ikigai? Believing You Deserve to Live It

Most people don’t miss their purpose because it’s hidden.

They miss it because they believe they need permission.

You already found it.

Now stop calling it a hobby, a side thing, a guilty pleasure.

Call it what it is: your Ikigai.

Now go live it.


FAQs

1. Does Ikigai have to make money?
No. But if people value it, you can monetize it without killing the joy.

2. Can I have more than one Ikigai?
Yes. Think of it like overlapping circles. You might have multiple centers of joy.

3. What if I love something but I’m not good at it yet?
Skills grow. Ikigai isn’t about perfection. It’s about joy and meaning.

4. How do I know the difference between a phase and Ikigai?
Phases burn out. Ikigai compounds. You keep coming back, deeper each time.

5. What if nobody understands my Ikigai?
That’s the point. It’s not theirs to understand. It’s yours to live.


Now Your Turn

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John Emmanuel is a results-obsessed relationship blogger and founder of Top Love Hacks, dedicated to helping you level up your dating and relationship game by motivating you to be in control of your love life.