5 Things Some Women Don’t Like About Blow Jobs
Memorable experiences come from the comfortability of people to engage in any activity.
More than two centuries ago, the ancient Indian Philosopher Vātsyāyana in his book Kama Sutra, brought blow jobs to vogue. And ever since, BJs have been the handshake of the sex world.
In fact, they’ve been said to offer a host of other benefits apart from the benefits of orgasm as they’re also said to increase relationship satisfaction and intimacy among other benefits.
Yet, the problem is that difficulty, and reluctance to engage in the activity is a reality for a lot of women. We humans aren’t designed to like and feel comfortable doing everything there’s to do. There must be some things some of us have it rough doing but others don’t struggle to do. And this is the case, with some women when it comes to blow jobs.
The second problem, however, is that most men have it rough to come to terms with the preferences of these women. They endlessly pressure these women for more and more oral sex. In the worst-case scenario, some of these women end up seeing disappointment and anger from their partners towards their reluctance to engage in the activity.
“I’ll be more contented and satisfied sexually if I get an immense amount of oral sex from my woman” are common impressions these men pass to their sexual partners.
But here’s the truth: Great quality guys even though, they might feel disappointed towards a woman’s reluctance to give heads, which is quite normal, won’t in any way feel anger towards the woman. Instead, they’ll be fine with it and not pressure the woman into something she’s not comfortable with.
If a guy’s normal reaction to the reluctance of a woman to go down on him is anger, she’s better off leaving him alone and letting him be.
The more she gives in to keep doing things she isn’t comfortable with, the more she’ll resent him and with time, things will really become messy.
The thing is that quite often it isn’t that these women just dislike BJs for just no reason. There are a few things about it that make them cringe at the thought of engaging in one.
1. Having no control of the deepness.
Blow jobs can be only genuinely enjoyable to most women if they can control how deep they can go. Too often, guys like to seize control during blow jobs by subconsciously or consciously holding their partners’ heads or something like that, but this doesn’t really go down well with some women.
And the harsh reality is that going really deep to some extent makes some women much more likely to gag and some, it even makes them more likely to be paranoid. But if as a woman, you aren’t in control of how deep you go during blow jobs and you’re prone to gagging, you’ll end up being frustrated with the whole experience.
The very best blow job experiences happen when both parties involved are comfortable, free, and relaxed and some guys simply put their partners at a disadvantage.
However, as a woman, you don’t really need to go that deep. Since 90% of sensitivity is in the tip. This makes a good job on the tip more attractive, sensual, and satisfying.
As you focus more on the tip, you might as well consider using your hands around the base, moving your it at the same rhythm that you move your head up and down, this feels pretty good for guys and makes things easier for you since you aren’t comfortable with deep throating.
This won’t only ensure that the whole experience becomes easier and comfortable for you, but it’ll also help you and your partner get the most out of the experience.
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2. It feels like a chore.
Most of us have some things we love doing and find exciting but after doing them for a long time, they become annoying and even boring but we have no choice but to do them usually, regularly.
Just think of household chores such as vacuuming carpets, dusting surfaces, ironing shirts, washing dishes, cleaning the bath, and so on, and even repetitive tasks like writing reports at the office or filing documents that an employee is ought to do. Suddenly, every one of these things becomes a chore for most of us. In the same way, blow jobs often feel like a chore to some women.
Even though blow jobs offer a host of other benefits apart from the benefits of orgasm as they’re also said to increase relationship satisfaction and intimacy among other benefits, it’s quite a huge turn-off for some women that’s ripping them apart because it often feels like a chore.
But here’s the truth: Blow jobs don’t have to be something you do because it’s an expected part of almost every sexual activity.
If someone’s genuinely enjoying an activity, she won’t think of it as something she just has to do because she has no choice. Instead, she can actively try to spice up the experience making it more enjoyable, satisfying, and memorable.
Giving oral sex and receiving it is great if you find the experience enjoyable and exciting. However, engaging in an activity simply because one has to is quite annoying, not enjoyable.
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3. It ruins the mood for some.
That’s probably not what you want to hear, but here’s the reality for some women: going down on a guy during an immense and intense make-out session seems like an interruption. Hence, making them a lot more reluctant to engage in the act.
Guess what happens when two people are having a romantic or sexual encounter and one person said or did something that really turned the other off? Correct, the other person will no longer want the encounter to continue as much as they did in the first place.
In the same way, some women feel reluctant to continue any form of sexual encounter after interrupting immense kissing, touching, and grinding to go down on the guy they’re making out with.
The bottom line?
To these women, BJs are a complete waste of time. They kill or ruin the vibes or moods for mind-blowing sexual encounters. Hence, they cringe at the thought of interrupting a hot make-out session to go down on the guy.
4. It quickly bores some.
If you genuinely don’t find something exciting, it might be because you’re not enjoying what you are doing and this makes it easier for you to get bored and tired of it. This is the case with some women when it comes to blow jobs.
They usually don’t feel the urge to keep doing the same things for a relatively long time since that might mean staying in one position for long too which might, in turn, induce pains.
It bores them like hell. It doesn’t always seem like they’re having a good time with most experience because it feels daunting.
When the blow jobs experience generally feels enjoyable and exciting, it becomes significantly easier and even more memorable for everyone involved in it.
By adding a little excitement like the woman coming up for a kiss, using her hands for a bit, or even try touching herself, it makes it easier for both her and her partner to have a good time.
5. Some guys feel entitled to it.
Blow jobs experience won’t feel any better to most women especially when some guys act and behave like it’s their birthright. Yet, the reality is that most guys can’t stop feeling entitled to it.
What if I told you that most women don’t like men who act as if they are entitled to any type of sex at all. Just because a woman is a man’s partner or is married to him doesn’t mean he’s entitled to her body in any way.
Even though BJs are said to be a natural part of sex, it doesn’t in any way mean that a woman should always go down on a guy in every sexual encounter because guys are entitled to be given a head.
Additionally, there’s no point in making it seem like a woman has got no choice but to go down on a guy because if she fancies doing it, she might feel reluctant to if she gets the feeling that the guy acts like it’s his birthright.
The very best experiences of most activities happen when people engage in them simply because they genuinely want to and not because someone wants them to.
