1. He sees a different picture altogether.

When your husband or boyfriend seems to be walking away from what was meant to be your “forever-after-glamourous marriage or relationship,” it’s possible that he’s seeing everything from an entirely different glasses. You might be the only one viewing the relationship from overly rosy-colored glasses.

If this is the case, he’s not being emotionally immature or shying away from commitment.

Because if out of care and love that you have for him you in one way or another try to control every aspect of his life which includes how he spends his day, who he hangs out with, who he talks to on phone, how he spends his money, etc, with little or no respect for his boundaries while thinking that things are going great, he’ll only feel robbed of his freedom.

And if out of familiarity, you directly or indirectly, listen terribly to him or find it hard to genuinely listen and understand his perspective or standpoints…

Or you always try to convince him to change his mind towards most of his choices and opinions, or worse, if his privacy and boundaries are at your mercy, no matter how much great things might seem to be going to you, he’ll feel frustrated by your endless acts of disrespect.

Or if instead of loving and accepting your significant other just the way he is, you’re so bent on playing the role of a guidance counselor and trying so hard to safe, fix, and mold him into your made-up fairy tale ideal of a perfect guy, he’ll feel alienated and will even resent you no matter how much you might think things are going great.

The bottom line is, if your man seems to be slipping farther away from your grip even though things are going great, he might be seeing an entirely different picture from you and it’ll be wise to communicate and iron things out together.

2. You don’t seem to be the woman he fell for.

The love of your life might be drifting away from you because you’ve significantly strayed away from the woman he committed to in the first place. He no longer recognizes you. The new you is quite strange and somehow repels him.

Maybe it’s because men and women look at relationships from different perspectives like something I read a while ago state: “Men go into relationships expecting nothing changes while women go into relationships expecting things to change.”

Although, it’s quite unrealistic to expect someone not to grow and even change because change they say is constant.

But you, just like some women normally do, might have gone too far with changing up to the extent that you’ve become a completely different person from the person you were in the early days of the relationship.

Maybe you used to love watching him play video games but now you no longer likes it when he plays video games. Or maybe you now cook fewer times than you used to since the both of you moved in together while you used to cook anytime either of you visited…

Or maybe you now have sex half the number of times you used to a year ago plus you now turn him down half of the time he tries to initiate sex unlike a year ago when you never turned him down.

Your husband or boyfriend, like a lot of men out there, loves and appreciates his woman just the way she is when he committed to her. He doesn’t necessarily want her to change her personality or behaviors unless there are some specific traits or characters she possesses that he doesn’t like.

Because he appreciates her for everything she is emotionally, sexually, spiritually, and even physically.

But changing significantly into what might be considered an entirely different person might be making your man care less about you.

Maybe you might have developed the personality, interests, and habits you possessed in the early days of the relationship out of a common need to fit in and to be accepted which is a huge mistake a lot of women make.

Instead of being the persons they truly are, they pretend to be someone else they think their partners might like. And then all of a sudden, they take off their masks expecting things to remain the same which is quite unlikely. 

Also read: 50 Dirty Things to Ask Your Boyfriend That Will Make Your Relationship Hotter

3. He feels he isn’t doing his job.

Want him to actually stick with you for the long haul? Validate his prowess in doing his ‘job’ as a man which is nothing more than satisfying the woman he loves in and out of the bedroom.

You might not be able to stop him from eventually pulling away even if you’re a firecracker in bed or have one of the biggest chests or the nicest flat tummy when being in bed with you, doesn’t make him feel happy, masculine, and satisfied.

You might not be able to stop him from becoming erotically impotent with you and eventually turning elsewhere even if you happen to have a lot of sex with him if you can’t always fill the secret fuel for his male ego that is hugely dependent on his want to please and satisfy his woman in every possible way.

Getting a feeling that he isn’t doing his job will guarantee that he walks away leaving behind only trails of dust.

Or he’ll wallow in self-pity feeling like a failure or even less than a man until one day, one of you cheats.

Even though it doesn’t sound sexy to hear that keeping him means feeding his male ego in this sense, your husband or boyfriend might be pulling away because you don’t stroke his ego, tease him, and make him feel powerful, desired, strong, and masculine.

This might seem like insecurity issues on the part of a lot of men but according to this interview, once a guy is in a relationship and cares about his partner, men typically care more about their partner’s pleasure and satisfaction than their own.

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