Explore 6 satisfying self-exploration techniques. Learn how to finger yourself for the first time for maximum pleasure!
Women are hardly ever taught how to touch themselves.
All they always get to hear is what not to do. What to be ashamed of. And so they hide. Wrap their body and desires in silence and shame. So bad that it feels like a taboo to explore it.
But you wanna know what the real sin could be?
Never trying.
Think about it. What could be more dangerous than never knowing the incredible feeling of giving yourself a gift no one else can?
Now fetch your seat. It’s story time. The story of Nova. Listen carefully. It could be yours too.
Nova Wanted to Feel It, But She Froze
Nova knew that a lot had been hidden from her. She knew there was more to it. She’d previously heard it somewhere:
Fingering yourself could be one of the greatest liberating feelings you can give yourself.
However, her doubts crippled her into in-action.
“What if it feels wrong?”
“What if I don’t even get turned on?”
“What if I’m broken?”
So she thought about it. For weeks. Probably even years.
One night, it hit her. The longer you postpone exploring your desires and body, the more grip fear has on you.
And that’s the turning point for her.
Here’s how you can rewrite your own story.
Ready? Really Ready? Here’s What Nova Did First
You don’t force pleasure. You don’t rush it. Invite it, instead.
Nova led with her mind. She didn’t start with her fingers. She created the right atmosphere. Closed the door. Dimmed the lights. Lit her favorite candle. And the room smelled calm.
She set her mind free. Free from the struggles of the day.
Because stress and arousal hardly exist in the same environment. Your body won’t open up if your mind is preoccupied with doubts and deadlines.
Nova managed to crack the code. She uncovered her “personal heroine of arousal. No, that’s not a drug. It’s the master key that always unlocks her desires.
It wasn’t that complicated. Reading a few pages of erotica until her breath feels heavy always does the magic for Nova.
Yours could be music. Old memories. Fantasies. You just need to find it. Command it. And use it.
Because the art of turning yourself on begins way before your fingers do anything.
Start Stupid Simple (Yes, That’s Enough)
Most people tend to overcomplicate self-pleasure like it’s rocket science.
But Nova had a big revelation. A huge library of techniques isn’t a mandatory prerequisite. You don’t even need them.
All it takes to start is curiosity and trimmed fingernails.
Start at the top. Let your hand drift from the breast. To the stomach. And thighs. Just one hand. One finger. It’s that simple.
When you land on your clit. Pause. Breathe.
Let your senses take the lead. Feel first before you do anything.
Nova’s fingers trailed over the labia. Then, slowly, it found its way to the outer lips. Then the inner lips. Her body responded. She noticed it. Warmth. Wetness.
The wetness is your body signaling you to keep going.
Shallow at first, she pressed one finger inside. Without an agenda. Or haste to “finish.”
She chose to explore. Because she knew it wasn’t supposed to be a performance.
It should feel like that for you, too.
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Your “Pleasure Headquarters” Is Real (And It’s Not Just the Clit)
If you’re anything like Nova, you might be tempted to think of the clit as the only star of the show.
That’s wrong.
One night, Nova unexpectedly discovered something she never believed existed. The feeling is just different.
She instinctively curled her finger inside herself. And pressing towards the belly button, she found it. A rare gem. A spongy spot. Rougher texture. But highly sensitive.
That’s the real pleasure headquarters. It’s called a “G-spot.”
It’s part of your anatomy. Not magic.
Go ahead. Give it a try. Rub. Press. Experiment and alternate between gentle taps and circles.
It might feel weird at first. And not instantly orgasmic.
But it can rock your world. From inside out — when your body catches up.
Your job isn’t to find the right button. It’s to stay curious enough to keep exploring. Experience taught Nova over time.
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Use Pressure Like a Pro (Nova’s Secret Move)
You’re not alone. Nova, too, couldn’t locate her G-spot easily. Most women can’t.
Here’s how she managed to:
She employed her other hand. Applied pressure. By gently pressing down on the skin just above her pubic bone.
Thanks to that pressure. It made her G-spot easier to feel. You should try it too. It’ll push the G-spot closer to your fingers inside.
At the end of the day? It feels reachable. Alive.
It becomes even better with lube. Maximize your pleasure with mixed slow circles. Light taps. And steady pressure.
Don’t take the passive approach to pleasure. You have to meet it halfway sometimes.
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Flip the Script: Try the “Backdoor Reach”
In a quest to feel more, one night, Nova slid her hand behind. Over her lower back. Reaching forward between her legs.
Her finger curved towards the back of her vagina, this time.
New angles. Different sensations. Nerve sparking up.
The point is, your body’s got several layers of pleasure.
And if you say no to the monotonous habit of using only one hand. Same motion. Same angle. Only then will you discover them.
Nova greatly regretted one thing. Not experimenting sooner.
Two Hands. Twice the Pleasure.
Want to go wilder?
Here’s what Nova did:
She started using both hands. Fingered her G-spot with one finger. The other one? Circled her clit.
It was clumsy at first. But when her mind went silent. Her hips found it. The rhythm felt better than magic.
With the dual stimulation, everything became sharper. Fuller. And impossible to ignore.
Your hands are powerful weapons. Make the most out of them.
Stop Trying to “Perform” Pleasure
The brutal truth Nova learned a little late?
Never drown yourself with unproductive thoughts. Forget how you “should” look. Or whether you’re doing it “right.”
Kill that voice in your head.
There’s no wrong way. No one is watching either. So why worry?
The pleasure you crave can only be experienced when you’ve quit performing and start listening to your body.
You don’t need to chase any goal. You’re supposed to just feel.
Why This Matters More Than You Think
This is way beyond just orgasms. It’s more like a war. Your victory? It’s when you’ve reclaimed what shame stole from you.
You’re proving. To yourself. Not anyone. That you need no permission whatsoever. To enjoy your own body.
Nova has this to say:
“For years, I thought I needed someone else to unlock me. Turns out, the key was in my own damn hand.”
And you might not be too different.
Final Thought: Your Body, Your Rules
You need no permission.
You don’t need to wait to be unlocked by someone else.
It’s your body.
It’s your pleasure.
And the first step certainly isn’t your fingertips.
Go on. Don’t hesitate. You’ve been waiting for it. So give all of it to yourself.
John Emmanuel is a results-obsessed relationship blogger and founder of Top Love Hacks, dedicated to helping you level up your dating and relationship game by motivating you to be in control of your love life.
