You know what? I wasn’t expecting to feel like this. Horrified, but not surprised.

I read Vera’s account of going on 50 dates with right-wing men—and my stomach sank.

The more I read, the worse it got. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was reading about something that’s happening all around us, in ways we don’t even fully acknowledge.

I can’t decide if what Vera did was brave or reckless.

But one thing is certain: it’s impossible to ignore the horrifying implications of it all.

And here’s the real kicker—it’s not just about her. It’s about us.

1. The Horror Is Real – And It’s All Around Us

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t disgusted by some of the men Vera encountered.

But let’s be honest: I’ve met them too. And so have you.

They’re not mythical creatures, lurking in dark corners—they’re sitting next to us at parties, getting too loud at bars, or even just showing up at family events.

These men? They’re the ones complaining about how women are too sensitive, yet somehow can’t get a grip on their own fragile egos.

It’s the subtle hints. The jokes that make you cringe. The way they act like “traditional masculinity” is the only thing that holds the world together.

You know the type. These men aren’t rare. They’re everywhere.

They act like they’re untouchable, like their right-wing beliefs make them superior.

But deep down? They’re angry.

And that’s not okay.

The anger, the toxic masculinity they carry? It’s rotten. 

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2. I’ve Seen This Before – And So Have You

I could feel it when I read Vera’s story.

These guys are not some fringe group—they’re a reflection of a growing issue that we’ve all witnessed.

Right-wing extremism isn’t just about political views. It’s about emotionally crippled men who think they need to dominate women to feel powerful.

It’s the guy at the bar who’s always complaining about feminism.

The guy who only listens to opinions that agree with him.

And the guy who hides his insecurity behind that “alpha male” facade.

What Vera experienced wasn’t an anomaly. It’s the truth, right in front of us.

This is real, and if you’ve been alive long enough, you’ve seen it firsthand.

You’ve encountered these men.

Hell, you’ve probably tried to ignore them, hoping they’d disappear.

But they don’t.

3. They’re Not Just Misogynists. They’re Emotionally Broken.

I’m going to tell you something you won’t hear from the mainstream: These men aren’t just misogynistic.

They’re mentally and emotionally unwell. They’re angry.

They’re disconnected. They’re trapped in a world that doesn’t make sense to them anymore.

These men believe they’re fighting a battle against women’s rights, against progressive ideals, against everything that’s evolving.

Why? Because they’re terrified. Terrified of losing control. Terrified that their traditional role as the “strong man” is slipping away.

The truth is, they don’t even know who they are. They’ve lost themselves.

And when a man doesn’t know himself, he turns all that confusion into hatred—hatred of the very things that might force him to look inward.

And that makes them dangerous. Not just to women—but to themselves too. 

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4. Men, Are We Really Just Watching This Happen?

Here’s the hard truth: we, as men, are too damn quiet about this.

You don’t have to be a right-wing extremist to see this, to feel it in the air.

But we’re not calling it out.

We see it happening, but we don’t speak up.

Why? Maybe we’re uncomfortable. Maybe we think it’s just a few bad apples.

But that’s a lie. The problem is bigger than we want to admit.

Why are we letting this happen? Why aren’t we calling out these men in our circles?

Why do we sit back and just say, “It’s not me, so I don’t need to get involved”?

If you’re a man reading this, and you’ve never challenged the toxic masculinity around you, it’s time to wake up.

It’s time to start making some noise.

5. Vera Took a Risk. But This Shouldn’t Be a Trend.

I can’t help but admire Vera.

She walked into a fire, knowing full well that some of the men she dated were not only politically extreme but emotionally damaged.

It took courage—but also a kind of recklessness that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

Let’s be clear here: what Vera did was brave, but also incredibly dangerous.

She willingly threw herself into a space where her safety, mentally and physically, was at risk.

And as a man, I cannot say enough that no one should try this again.

We need to do better. Men, we need to create safer spaces—not just for women but for all of us.

Vera put herself in that position because she felt it was important.

But it shouldn’t have to be like that.

6. Why Women Are Right to Vet Us Harder

It’s so easy for some men to scoff and say, “Women are just too picky.”

But here’s the truth—women are right to be cautious.

Why? Because safety is on the line. It’s not about political views.

It’s about a woman’s ability to feel safe, to feel heard, and to be with someone who respects her.

When women hesitate around men with these extreme views, they aren’t just worried about arguments over politics.

They’re worried about their safety. Their emotional wellbeing.

So no, it’s not paranoia. It’s survival. And as men, we need to step up.

We need to be the ones who make it clear that this type of behavior is unacceptable. 

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7. This Isn’t About Left vs. Right—It’s About Accountability

The real issue isn’t the politics. It’s the personal accountability we all need to take.

Men need to stop pretending that this issue is something “other men” deal with.

This is OUR problem, too.

We can’t just feel bad for women, or offer sympathy. We need action.

We need to be the ones calling out the toxic behaviors.

We need to stop pretending that it’s “just a few bad apples.” We need to speak up.

The time to act is now. Not tomorrow. Today.

8. Stop Pretending These Problems Don’t Exist

If you’re reading this and feel uncomfortable, good.

That discomfort means you’re starting to see the bigger picture. You can’t ignore it anymore.

So here’s my challenge to you—whether you’re a man or a woman: Stop pretending these problems don’t exist.

Let’s stop making excuses. Let’s own this, together. Because if we don’t? This cycle will continue.

And it won’t just hurt Vera—it’ll hurt all of us.

The Final Word

This isn’t just a rant about right-wing men or toxic masculinity. It’s a call to action.

It’s a challenge to both men and women to start owning our roles in this world.

Men, let’s make this world better. Let’s call out the behavior we don’t stand for.

And women, you don’t have to settle for anything less than respect.

Raise your standards. Demand better.

And for the love of everything, let’s stop pretending we don’t see what’s wrong.

Let’s fix it. Together.